Power n Control

A word from MCA Whanau Support

The Women’s Self Defence class in May saw a few of us brave women undertake 2 days of drills and techniques designed to keep us safe in dangerous situations, the youngest participants being college girls right through to retired women. Feedback was increased confidence especially thilehose out walking. It was more a mental shift that women have the right to be safe no matter where they are or how they decide to dress.   The techniques were designed to help women get out and away from unsafe confrontations.   The instructor Charley Riley specialises in combat martial arts of various forms and has helped women’s organisations with keep safe programmes, so we were fortunate to get him again. This year he introduced us to another instructor from Tauranga and in time the women will regroup and take a short trip across to Tauranga to do a refresher course. So watch this space..

This brings us to the next topic which sits in line with the course. This being issues of inequality or power and control in relationships. The Wheel above was developed around the 1980’s in the DAIP Project (Domestic Abuse Intervention Program). Their aim was to reduce male violence against women, hence the gender wording on the wheel.

We know today that campaigns like the “White Ribbon” was born out of projects like these.

We’re also aware after much research and evidence that violence in all shapes and forms is unacceptable. This includes physical abuse, verbal abuse, emotional abuse, financial abuse (which includes denying access to financial resources and employment opportunities).

Historically in our own country, New Zealand societies were reluctant to respond or intervene when violence occurred between husband and wife.

Through the work of the women’s movement in the 70’s they identified violence in the home as an important issue and high social and economic costs. Throughout the 70’s, 80’s, 90’s legislation was improved to protect vulnerable people from being violated by those close to them, their loved ones. The NZ Domestic Violence Act 1995 was the outcome, and it continues to be reviewed to ensure currency and relevancy in our evolving society.   It covers people in relationships both heterosexual and homosexual relationships, elderly community from being financially exploited, mistreated or neglected, children as indirect victims of domestic violence by merely witnessing their parents domestic violence, just to name a few.

The good news is help is available and people are willing to walk alongside those wanting to make change whether victims or offenders. If you need to talk to someone about you or others you know of struggling in this situation call me, Huhana, on 345 5971 or cellphone 021 147 1112